“I will never leave you nor forsake you.” ~God
See Hebrews 13:5
Loneliness can really hurt, that is, if you don’t understand something: you are never alone. As a Christian, wherever you go there are four of you. Father, Son, Holy Spirit, and you! God understands you still crave human contact and companionship, He made you that way! But when you feel alone, that doesn’t mean you actually are!
Feelings are fickle, they come and go, ebb and flow. You can be in a room full of people and still feel alone. So we can’t live off of our feelings, we have to live off of the truth. God in us teaches us the truth! Jesus explains:
“But when he, the Spirit of truth, comes, he will guide you into all the truth. He will not speak on his own; he will speak only what he hears, and he will tell you what is yet to come.” (John 16:13)
When Jesus said this it was still pre-Cross, so the Holy Spirit hadn’t yet made His home inside of any human being. He had been with people, and even on people, but not in people! As New Covenant believers, the Holy Spirit now resides in our spirit! So this verse applies to us!
The Spirit of truth has come and He is guiding us into the truth! The truth is, we are never alone! The truth is, we’ve been grafted into the Trinity! Our spirit is now a part of the Trinity! So it’s not just a Trinity any longer because you are included! (See Colossians 3:3, 1 Corinthians 6:19, John 14:23, Ephesians 2:6).
The truth is, we can enjoy our lives even without human contact. Do we want to? No. But the enemy wants us to think something is wrong with us when we are alone, but there isn’t. Relationships–the amount of relationships you have–do not define you. If you think this way, you will slip into codependency. Codependency is allowing people to do bad stuff to you just so that you can keep them in your life. God doesn’t want that.
The truth is, God doesn’t want us to force any human relationship–nor get our identity from it. Or worse, continue to allow unacceptable treatment to keep a human relationship. HE WANTS US TO HAVE HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS! He wants us to have organic relationships based on love and respect–both for others and for ourselves. This becomes easier as the Holy Spirit teaches you the truth of your infinite value. Soon enough, He’ll give you the skills to take a stand against the poor choices of people–and to enforce change in the right way.
This might cause you to lose relationships and that’s okay because your value will start to come to life! Understanding your worth will result in the creation of healthy relationships, as the decrepit, one-sided relationships fall away.
Friend, you are so valuable, Jesus died for you. You are so valuable, the Father gave you Jesus to pay off your sin-debt with Him for good! (See John 3:16).
And would you look at something else from that verse above–John 16:13? Can you see that the Holy Spirit is not speaking on His own? He is in relationship with the Father and Son. Therefore, He who is speaking the truth to your heart is hearing what they have to say about you too–and it’s all good stuff!
So you can know that even when things look bad, you are still good! You are a holy saint! You are set apart and sanctified in full! Your spirit is spotless, blameless, and free from all accusation because of your faith in the Cross! (See Romans 6:18, Hebrews 10:10,14, Colossians 1:22, John 1:12). This relationship you’re in with God, the Trinity, will continue to guide you into truth. But not only that, they will comfort you and help you in your time of pain and need. Just look at what Jesus said:
“But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I have said to you.” (John 14:26)
Again, this has happened to you if you believe in Jesus as your Savior, and it’s currently happening to you as well! God is helping you and reminding you of everything He constantly says to you! He’s telling you that you’re not alone. He’s telling you that you’re fine. He’s telling you to relax and don’t worry. He’s telling you to be confident. He’s building you up, not tearing you down.
How do you know if it’s His voice? First of all, you have to know that God is love. Love is not just a characteristic of His but what He is (see 1 John 4:8). Here’s more of what His voice sounds like:
“He’s loving, joyful, peaceful, patient, kind, good, faithful, and He’s not erratic.” (See Galatians 5:22-23)
“He isn’t envious, He doesn’t brag on Himself, and He’s not pompous. He’ll never dishonor you, He looks out for you, He’s not easily angered, He keeps no record of your wrongs. He doesn’t get happy when bad things happen to you or others, but instead gets excited about His truth! He always protects you, always trusts you, and He never gives up on you. He never fails you!” (See 1 Corinthians 13:4-8)
So today, my friends, know this: You are never alone! You have God with you and in you! He is interwoven with your spirit like wicker! Everywhere you go, He goes! He is faithful to you no matter what you do, and no matter if others are faithful to you or not. Please begin to understand that seasons of being by yourself–from certain people–is not a bad thing. It helps you refocus on God. It helps you get to know Him even more. It helps you learn more about your true identity! Jesus went off by Himself quite often, to spend private time with the Father. Also, when He was tested the hardest, He went away from all human contact for 40 days. It was during that time He was pressured by Satan the worst! (See Matthew 4:1-11, Luke 4:1-13). However, that testing in the wilderness only revealed how strong He was to that stupid devil! If you’re currently alone, away from people, this is happening to you too! You are not alone! God is with you! You are strong! Your faith is being honed and tested! STAND FIRM IN THE TRUTH! BE CONFIDENT! YOU ARE BEING PREPARED FOR GREAT THINGS!
A prayer for you: Heavenly Father, you have used human loneliness more than anything else in my life to get me to focus on you. You’ve used the rejection of loved ones and trusted people to test my faith. It’s weird to say this, but I’m truly thankful. Your grace has always been enough. The enemy has attempted to make me feel as if something is wrong with me, but you’ve assured me that I’m perfectly secure in you. YOU define me, and HE does not. YOU have taught me that I can enjoy my life at all times! YOU have helped me break free from codependency when Satan has wanted me to sit idle! THANK YOU FOR THE TRUTH! Thank you for teaching me that I’m never alone! Right now, I lift up all who are reading this, directly to you. Dad, so many of them are in deep pain, they think they’re lonely when they’re not. Please reveal your truth to them, and please comfort them. I know you already are, but help them to open up their eyes to the fact that you’re ALWAYS with them–even when they are rejected by people! Even when they are hurt! TEACH THEM HOW TO TRUST PEOPLE AGAIN! Teach them to trust YOU! Help them to refocus on hope! Some of these dear readers have even believed the false teaching of religious people; that, because of their mistakes, you’ve left them. WHAT LIES! What demonic lies! Reveal the truth, God! Reveal your commitment to them! Soothe these feelings of loneliness and rejection. Teach them how to enjoy their lives and not force relationships, or worse, allow unacceptable behavior to KEEP relationships. Show them what a healthy, loving relationship actually is. The same they have with you. Amen.
This devotional is from 60 Days for Jesus, Volume 3. Get your copy here!