How Can I Become Wise?

“If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.”

James 1:5

For most of my life, I’ve lacked wisdom. Even though I thought I was wise, I wasn’t. I was simply “wise in my own eyes.” Sure, I had special gifts and talents (which I mostly hid from God, and used for myself); I was good at managing money, rather big or little (but I was greedy); I was self-motivated (self-motivated to sin a lot, and have excuses for those sins). On and on, I was “this” or “that,” and bragging was a big part of my life.

“Look at what all I’ve done!”

“Look at what I’ve got!”

“Look a how smart I am!”

“Blah, blah, blah….and blah.” Old Matt thought way too highly of himself and his abilities.

Most of my bragging was on myself, that is, my accomplishments, and not on God. And to top it off, I would get mad at you, if you didn’t acknowledge my triumphs! I was dumb! I was not wise. The great Christian writer, A.W. Tozer, said in his book, The Pursuit of God:

“Whoever defends himself will have himself for his defense, and he will have no other; but let him come defenseless before the Lord and he will have for his defender no less than God Himself.”

Ain’t that the truth! When we are not wise, we place ourselves in our defense. The problem with this stupid method is that we are extremely flawed–God is not. Eventually, as we continue on in this manner, a great crash will happen in our lives–a crash that I’ve personally experienced.

This crash comes to everyone who doesn’t build their lives on Christ–rich, poor, male, female, old or young–it’s gonna happen one day.

Why? Because God wants us to choose to build our lives on Jesus! IT’S A CHOICE! Unlike other religions, the one true religion, Christianity, our God lets us choose to love Him back. He never forces us. **Side note: Our God actually died for us, He doesn’t require that we die for Him, unlike other fake gods that Satan has established in this world.** So we must choose to not build our lives on ourselves but instead on Him.

In return for this choice we get wisdom. My previously arrogant lifestyle was wisdom-free. It took God pulling back everything (and everyone) I had formed my identity in–other than Him–for me to finally realize this! But I still had to choose this.  

Some people will have absolutely every part of their lives shaken up by God–because He’s trying to get things prioritized–and they still reject Him. I was nearly that person! I had the very best excuses! And I blamed God and people for all my troubles, just like a bratty teenager blames their loving parents and siblings!

“God, if you’re so good, then why won’t you fix this?! I’m doing all this stuff for you, and it’s not working! Fix it and hurry up!” This was how I thought!

The reality was, God was fixing things, mainly my mindset. He wanted me to begin allowing Christ to live through me, and that’s what hurt so much because I didn’t want to. “I know better than Him,” was one of my “secret” thoughts. I always had a dumb back-up plan, and I refused to trust His ways.

When God kept saying, “Let me build you a new life,” I threw a fit. That was un-wise of me.

Jesus talks about wise and foolish “builders” in Matthew 7:24-27–those who did and didn’t build their lives on Christ, and the results of that:

“Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock. But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash.”

There’s the crash! MY HOUSE, MY LIFE, MY EVERYTHING, FELL WITH THE GREATEST CRASH EVER! It got so bad, the devil had me convinced that suicide was the best option!

But it was in the rubble of that great crash, where Jesus cleared the ground away. He got out His supernatural shovel, and started to dig. Once He had dug down very deep, Jesus began to pour new footings. HE MADE THEM STRONG. He made sure they’d never move by simply teaching me my value in His unconditional love! Next, He poured the best concrete–His Word–into this foundation, and then reinforced it with the strongest rebar ever…The Blood of The Cross.

Lastly, He personally hand-crafted a brand new structure that my entire life is now built upon–HIM!

Just Jesus! HIM! HIM! HIM! We gotta get this right, first!


Your ability to even have an ability is because of His choice to make it possible!

YOUR EXISTENCE IS IN HIS HANDS! Just as a baby is cradled in their mother’s arms, everything about your next heartbeat depends on Christ’s desires!

WE ARE HERE BECAUSE OF HIS WAYS, HIS TRUTH, AND HIS LIFE! So when we finally begin to do as He said and “practice like a wise man who built his house on a rock,” then everything changes! This is where true wisdom begins. Not in ourselves alone, but in Christ, fully. Everything else in our lives cascades from Him in us.

Here are a few tips I’ve learned over the years about godly wisdom, I believe they will help you too:

  1. You must destroy your pride. This was a major overhauling in my life. Although I’m so much better than I used to be, I’ll never be 100% pride-free until I’m with God in heaven, and out of this body. Due to my God-given overly-competitive, aggressive personality, I have to be deliberately conscious of pride–and I realize that. It is a daily thing (if not hourly) for me to WILLINGLY accept, that I need God’s grace to overcome my pride. Because I don’t like to be told what to do or how to do it (because my flesh thinks he knows it all, and my mind is still being renewed), when such things happen, I have to STOP for a moment and weigh my options. The Holy Spirit usually says, “Is this worth it?” Sometimes it is, but 9 out of 10 times it’s not. So through God’s grace in me I try to do my best to become the opposite of prideful while still staying confident (this is possible). I consciously become humble, to destroy a prideful moment. To do this, I’ll simply say, “God, help me,” and He does! He always doles out extra grace when needed!
  2. Be teachable. Again, this is a branch of humility (the opposite of pride) that you must develop if you want godly wisdom. If you think you know it all, you are once again relying on yourself. And no, I’m not saying that everyone is always right, but neither are we. Because of this fact–that we are all flawed creations–we can always give other people respect and listen to what they have to say, even if we don’t agree. Ultimately, it is the Holy Spirit who will be the one to instill His truths on our hearts and in our minds. In the meantime, don’t get infuriated with those who don’t believe exactly like you. Instead, keep your chin up, look people in the eye, be respectful, and show them grace and love. Always listen to others with a gentle mindset, no matter who they are.
  3. Don’t gamble on your future. What I mean by this is make good choices which will benefit you and your loved ones for tomorrow. If you are smoking cigarettes all day long, getting drunk, getting high, overeating, refusing to get regular exercise, living with a short fuse, cheating on your spouse, watching porn, refusing to get married after years of dating, blowing money, being legalistic, or  ______________ (you fill in the blank)…you are risking the joy, fulfillment, and security of your future, not just for you but for those who love you. Begin to ask God for help with all of these situations, and He will send new people into your life who will help you change these things, as well as give you new desires to want to change them. Also, begin to seek out Jesus’ ways daily, in prayer and study, and He will start to transform and renew your mind into something strong, beautiful, and prepped for the future! You will begin to have a wise mind!
  4. Be decisive. Wisdom begins with humility; humility in yourself (not disrespect), and trust in God. So when you trust in God, by allowing Jesus to live through you–to the point of severe pain through growth–this builds your confidence in your Creator! And confidence in your Creator…*drumroll*…makes you a very decisive person! Because of your trust in God, you will rarely second-guess yourself because you know that God always has your back! So even if you do make a dumb move, or take an incorrect step in the wrong direction (like I do all the time), God will somehow use it for good! SO BE DECISIVE AND MOVE FORWARD! YOU’VE GOT NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT! EVER! YOU ONLY HAVE WISDOM TO GAIN! LET’S GOOOOOOOOO!!!!


A prayer for you: Heavenly Father, thank you for your wisdom. I ask that you continue to teach me how to handle all of my life situations with YOUR wisdom, until you call me Home. Thank you. Right now, I lift up all these dear readers, directly to you. For those who are extremely frustrated with everything and everyone around them, give them peace in your wisdom. Teach them how to grow in your humility, which, in reality is actually STRENGTH! Guide them as they begin to walk OUT Christ in them, and change the world for the better through your wisdom! In Jesus’ name I pray, amen.

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