How Can I Become Wise?
“If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.”
For most of my life, I lacked wisdom. Even though I thought I was wise, I wasn’t—and this was because I was living by my flesh and old, stinking thinking. Sure, I had special gifts and talents, I was good at managing money, rather big or little; and I was self-motivated, but I bragged on the wrong things.
“Look at what all I’ve done!”
“Look at what I’ve got!”
“Look a how smart I am!”
“Blah, blah, blah…and blah.” I thought way too highly of myself and my abilities. Most of my bragging was on my accomplishments, and not on God. To top it off, I would get mad at you, if you didn’t acknowledge my triumphs! I was acting dumb! I was not being wise. When we live an unwise life, eventually a great crash will happen. I’ve personally experienced this.
This crash comes to everyone who doesn’t build their lives on Christ–rich, poor, male, female, old or young–it’s going to happen one day. Why? Because God wants us to choose to build our lives on Jesus! IT’S A CHOICE! Unlike other religions, our God lets us choose to love Him back. He never forces us.
By choosing to build our lives on Christ, in return for this choice, we get wisdom. My previous lifestyle was wisdom-free. The seeds were in me, but laid dormant. It took God pulling back everything and everyone I had formed my identity in, other than Him, for me to finally realize this! But I still had to choose this.
Some people will have every part of their lives shaken up by God, because He’s trying to get things prioritized, and they still reject Him. We must stop blaming God and instead start listening to Him.
“God, if you’re so good, then why won’t you fix this?! I’m doing all this stuff for you and it’s not working! Fix it and hurry up!” This was how I thought! My mind hadn’t yet been renewed by my perfect spirit.
The reality was, God was fixing things, mainly my thinking. He wanted me to begin allowing Christ to live through me, and that’s what hurt so much because my flesh fought it. When He kept saying, “Let me build you a new life. I’m already in you, just let me out,” I threw a fit. That was unwise of me.
Jesus talks about wise and foolish builders in Matthew 7:24-27, those who did and didn’t build their lives on Christ and the results of that:
“Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock. But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash.”
There’s the crash! MY LIFE, MY EVERYTHING, FELL WITH THE GREATEST CRASH EVER! It got so bad, the devil had me convinced that suicide was the best option!
But it was in the rubble of that great crash where Jesus cleared the ground away, He got out His shovel and started to dig. Once He had dug down very deep, Jesus began to pour new footings. He made them strong. He made sure they’d never move by simply teaching me my value in His unconditional love! Next, He poured the best concrete–His Word–into this foundation, and then reinforced it with the strongest rebar ever: the blood of the Cross. Lastly, He personally hand-crafted a brand new structure that my entire life is now built upon which is He and I combined! He wants to do the same for you!
Here are a few tips I’ve learned over the years about godly wisdom, I believe they will help you too:
- You must destroy your pride. This was a major overhauling in my life. Due to my God-given overly-competitive personality, I have to be deliberately conscious of prideful thoughts–I realize that. Because my flesh doesn’t like to be told what to do or how to do it, when a difficult situation arises, I have to stop for a moment and weigh my options. The Holy Spirit usually says, “Is this worth it?” Sometimes it is, but the majority of the time it’s not.
- Be teachable. This is a type of humility (the opposite of pride) that we must develop if we want to exude godly wisdom. If we think we know it all, we don’t. And no, I’m not saying everyone is always right, but neither are we. Because of this fact–that we are all learning and growing–we should give other people respect and listen to what they have to say, even if we don’t agree. Ultimately, it is the Holy Spirit who will be the one to instill His truths in our minds. In the meantime, don’t get infuriated with those who don’t believe exactly like you. Instead, listen to others with a gentle attitude, no matter who they are.
- Don’t gamble on your future. What I mean by this is make good choices which will benefit you and your loved ones for tomorrow. If you are smoking cigarettes all day long, getting drunk, getting high, overeating, refusing to get regular exercise, living with a short fuse, cheating on your spouse, watching porn, refusing to get married after years of dating, blowing money, being legalistic, or ______________ (you fill in the blank)–you are risking the joy, fulfillment, and security for those who love you. Begin to ask God for help with all of these things and He will send new people into your life who will help you. Also, begin to study God’s Word and He will transform your mind into something strong, beautiful, and prepped for the future!
- Be decisive. Because of your trust in God you will rarely second-guess yourself. Why? Because you know that He always has your back! So even if you do make a dumb move, or take an incorrect step in the wrong direction, God will somehow use it for good! So be decisive and move forward! You’ve got nothing to lose and only wisdom to gain!
A prayer for you: Heavenly Father, thank you for the wisdom you’ve given me because you live in me. I ask that you continue to teach me more and more. Right now, I lift up all these dear readers, directly to you. For those who are extremely frustrated with everything and everyone around them, give them peace through your wisdom. In Jesus’ name I pray, amen.
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